Why Karva Chauth Makes My Day
Karva Chauth, as an event, has always been more of ‘karva sach’ (bitter truth) for me, reminding me every year that I am married. Just kidding!
No, I am not one of those frustrated husbands who are fed up with their better halves. In fact, I love my wife a lot but then again, I have always loved her the same way much before society and the law of the land approved of our relationship in the form of marriage. The way I feel for her as my spouse is no different than the feeling I had for her when she didn’t have to fast for my well-being in the name of Karva Chauth.
I tried to talk to her out of this event on multiple occasions without much success. I have always wondered, what happens to my otherwise rational sweetheart on this one occasion? Soon I realised. I started seeing what she always saw.
If we look at the origin of Karva Chauth, it was started by married women whose husbands were in the army. This grand event was organised just before men went to war. It was more like spending what might be the last romantic evening together. Though Karva Chauth is primarily a festival in the northern and western parts of India, similar patterns can be found in the eastern side as well. Sindur Khela is a very special event for married women in the East and is based on similar feelings. The fear of having to lose one’s life partner paved the way for this festival that involves wives fasting from sunrise to moonrise and then spending the entire moonlit evening with their husbands.
My argument, like many others, was to question the relevancy of the same ritual at a time when many feel seeing the moon on the internet is more user-friendly than having to peek outside the window. Not to mention the scientifically proven cons of fasting. In a world where women are running as fast as men (in some cases even faster) in all spheres of life, how logical is it to deny the body its due share of vital nutrients for an entire day? The answer that I received made me realise once again that the entire world depends on the way we perceive things. It is neither right, nor wrong. It is simply relative.
My wife looked at it as a perfect excuse for a mid-week romantic evening. My natural argument was that the evening can still be spent without fasting. She replied, “Yes, of course. But then, we won’t be having this fight at all. Isn’t it?” It is at that moment I realised the base of her argument which I consistently missed for all these years. It was neither superstition nor melodrama; it was always about enjoying every single moment of this special day. From making constant phone calls to her to avoiding the entire world in the evening, all my gestures satiated her emotional cravings that our normal routine would never allow.
Maybe I will still continue to argue with her and end up accompanying her in the fast but, when I do look at the moon and her face, I will always know what it is all about. I don’t know if Karva Chauth is a special day, but it surely makes my day special.
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